What a strange question, you may think. “Of course I want to belong.” But then you do all the things that have the opposite effect in your life.
So many feel lonely amidst family and friends. So many feel isolated, disconnected, misunderstood, unappreciated, not seen or heard. Depression, anxiety and loneliness are increasingly present in our society.
Our desire to belong
We want to belong. One of our innermost wishes as human beings is to be part of a community in which we feel at home. Our heart’s desire to belong is something natural. As natural as our wish to be truly seen, heard, appreciated and loved by someone. We long for closeness and true intimacy.
Belonging vs. fitting in
But what many of us do in their connections is try to fit in. This naturally leads to a feeling of disconnectedness, because when we try to fit in, we do not show all of ourselves. We hide the things we feel shameful about or deem unlovable about ourselves. By wearing a mask, we pretend to be someone we are not and perfect an identity to the outside world. We keep ourselves busy in our work and personal lives and numb or suppress our feelings. We act as if we like something that we actually don’t like. Or we behave differently than we really are just to be accepted by others.
Remembering & returning home
We feel disconnected from others when we are disconnected from ourself – from our Self. At a certain point in our life, when the suffering has become unbearable, we begin to listen to the whispers of our intuition and inner guidance and stop ignoring these nudges of our soul any longer. These whispers and nudges are the call to remember. To remember that we are love and deserve love, no matter what other people project onto us. We are being encouraged to reconnect with our true Self and return home to our innate Divinity.
The end of sacrificial love
When we remember that we are lovable just as we are, we also begin to recognize all the ways in which we haven’t loved ourselves before, have sacrificed our needs and pleased others to our own detriment. We see the truth about our non-existent boundaries and the need to speak our truth. We start to realize that love must include ourselves, not just others. Sacrificial love is not what lived self-love is.
In the Age of Aquarius, we overcome sacrificial love because we understand the importance of honoring ourselves first – of filling our cup first. It is through our embodied love for ourselves, our self-care and feeling at home within ourselves that we are able to be of service to humanity, create healthy communities and thrive in life.
The way forward
If we truly want to belong, we must reveal our true Self to the world. Authenticity is the way forward. Only when we are raw, real and authentic can we create an authentic connection with others. It is our authenticity that attracts like-hearted souls because our vibrational frequencies match. The more authentic we are, the more authentic our connections become. The deeper we are connected with ourselves, the deeper our connections will be. And the more we embody a sense of belonging, the more we feel that we belong in this world.
Heart-centered consciousness
Experiencing life through the heart is a conscious choice and practice. On our healing journey, we practice exactly that. We learn to soften and open our hearts and face everything that is not love within us. We evolve from an egoic perspective on life – led by an unbalanced solar plexus chakra – to an embodied heart consciousness where we lead with our heart.
Our heart center is the place where our Divinity resides. By dropping into our heart and feeling our Divine connection from within, we are able to create and maintain this sense of belonging within us. This sense of feeling at home within magnetizes heart-centered connections into our lives where we also feel at home. Heart-centered or unity consciousness is when we connect from heart to heart because our hearts are wide open and we no longer feel separate from all that is.
True soul connections
True soul connections that are based on heart-centered consciousness give us the feeling of true belonging. They get us. They see us and love us exactly as we are, with our light, our gifts, our flaws, quirks, fears and weaknesses. In their presence, we can stop hiding parts of ourselves. We let ourselves be seen because we feel safe. Our nervous system is being soothed. We feel relaxed and can therefore express ourselves openly and freely. They are our soul sisters and soul brothers.
Discovering our true Self
These authentic connections can only be formed when we stop trying to fit in. But to do this, we must first be honest with ourselves and confront our innermost beliefs about ourselves, our worthiness and our understanding of love, connection, and true intimacy. We are being asked to courageously and vulnerably face our wounds, fears, limiting beliefs, feelings of shame and unworthiness.
When we begin to recognize our worth despite our imperfections and discover our true Self, we also begin to feel at home within ourselves. When we embody this sense of true belonging and are deeply connected with ourselves, we not only radiate our most authentic light into the world for our soul family to see and feel, but we also create the foundation for a deep, real and authentic connection with them. It is our unique essence that we want to emanate.
The journey to self-acceptance, self-love & belonging
This journey of compassionate self-discovery leads to true self-acceptance, self-love, and belonging, where we feel whole and lovable independent of external validation. We’ve let go of the need to control how others perceive us. We’ve stopped caring about what other people think of us or say about us. Instead, we simply shine in our authenticity, open and vulnerable. By learning to love ourselves wholeheartedly, we not only raise our vibrational frequency, but also pave the way for our destiny. Only when we shine in our authentic light do we become a vibrational match to our highest timeline – our dharma timeline – and align with all that we deserve and are meant to be aligned with in this life.
Ancient souls also want to belong
If you are an ancient soul, you have come here to volunteer to help humanity in these times of transformation. As part of your soul contract, you have taken on generational trauma in order to heal it and bring more light into family lines. You have done the inner work to heal all of these things, you have remembered who you are, you unapologetically stand in your truth and you live authentically. You have done everything recommended in this blog post, and yet you may still feel unseen and unheard in life.
This feeling of loneliness or sense of not-belonging can occur because as an ancient galactic and/or angelic soul, you are naturally of a higher frequency than your surroundings. You are used to holding space for others and guiding them, but often they cannot do that for you, or not yet. They cannot meet you at your depth because they have not yet met themselves at a deeper level.
A message of hope
Even though you cherish your own company as an ancient soul and enjoy your solitude – because Earth is a very dense place for you – you sometimes feel lonely. I feel you. I experience this myself. And then I remind myself that I’m not alone. I remember that I’m a Divine being and that my support system is always around me. Spirit is here with me. Always.
Here is something that might give you hope too. As more and more people awaken, embark on their healing journey and step into their authenticity, we are beginning to build communities that represent the New Earth frequency and where you too will feel at home. And the time has come for you to reunite with your soul family as well, because as volunteers we no longer need to be strategically scattered around the world to share our light and create this web of lights around the globe. Many others have heard and answered the call, and have joined us on our mission.