The instant soul recognition with our twin flame is meant to be a catalyst for deep healing, self-discovery, and personal growth. This spiritual activation is intended to take us on a journey that leads us even deeper into the depths of our being than if we were to follow the spiritual path alone without a mirror soul. The higher purpose of the twin flame activation is to become love. To become unconditional love. Yet, it is not that simple. There will be moments when we feel stuck on this inner transformational journey that is so crucial for our soul’s evolution.
The message behind feeling stuck
Do you feel stuck on your twin flame journey? Feeling stuck can be frustrating and also overwhelming. You may not know what to do, but feeling stuck is a message in itself. It’s a sign that something within you needs attention so that you can make progress in your situation. Something is not in flow because you are resisting change or hesitating to take the next step. You are ignoring your intuition that is telling you to transcend something. This path asks us to transcend in several ways, which I will go into detail in this blog post. Essentially, there are three reasons why you might feel stuck on your twin flame journey, and thus, three parts of transcendence.
Transcending your ego
If you are in the middle of your transformational journey, key reason for feeling trapped in the twin flame paradigm is that you are still blaming your Divine counterpart for not doing the inner work and not showing up for you. If this is you, then this is a sign, a not-so-gentle nudge even, to shift your focus to yourself. Where are YOU not showing up for yourself? In what ways are YOU not committed to doing the inner work? Your situation mirrors exactly that back to you.
This journey is not all rainbows and unicorns and about fantasizing about a romantic relationship. First and foremost, it’s about inner healing, integrating your shadows, coming into inner union of your feminine and masculine energies, getting to know yourself on a very deep level and learning to love yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally. So, if you find yourself blaming your twin flame for the separation, then you are not yet in a place of unconditional love, but rather in a place of judgment. It is time to reflect on what underlying limiting beliefs are causing this. Holding on to the judgments and certain beliefs will keep you stuck. To move beyond them, you must transcend this unhealthy ego state and the judgmental thought patterns related with it. Stop waiting and devote yourself to your path of healing and self-mastery.
Transcending your understanding of time
The second reason for the stuckness you feel could be that you are attached to a certain time frame in which the union with your twin flame is supposed to happen. You are so focused on the when and how that you are not fully in a state of surrender. If this is you, then your feeling of being stuck is a Divine message that you should enjoy life in the meantime and let the Divine surprise you. You are on a path to physical union, but it’s not time yet.
Your feeling of stuckness is therefore a result of holding on to a specific time span. And what you resist, persists – that is, when you resist Divine timing, you actually reinforce your feeling of being stuck again and again. Allow yourself to be guided to certain spiritual practices and healing tools that will help you release any fears and doubts. Surrender even more so by focusing on raising your vibrational frequency by doing things you love and that bring you joy. To live in surrender, it is crucial to return to a state of faith and trust. Embody the knowingness that your love is reciprocated and that time is not running out. Celebrate yourself. Celebrate life. And stop scattering your energy by overthinking the whole process. Living in a surrendered state means returning to your feminine essence and simply being.
You are being asked to transcend your understanding of time and your attachment to a specific time frame by letting go of doubt and recommitting to faith – faith in your journey, in your twin flame, and in God.
Transcending your twin flame & the journey
The third reason is perhaps the hardest truth to hear. You may feel stuck because you refuse to move on from your twin flame. Yes, you heard right. It may be a sign to transcend the twin flame journey altogether and move on.
You’ve done your inner work and are in a calm, relaxed, unconditionally loving and surrendered place, but you are still holding on tightly to your Divine counterpart and are not open to other possibilities. Spirit wants to release you from this journey and bring someone else in so you can begin your higher mission. Your twin flame has also done or is doing their inner work but has chosen to stay in their old and established life due to obligations, responsibilities, other commitments or a head over heart decision. It takes great courage to be open to change and the not-knowing how this Divine love would transform their life. When Spirit sees that your counterpart will cling to their logical mind for an indefinite period of time, they have your back and want to bring in a solution for you.
If this applies to you and your current situation, know that this doesn’t mean that you are being asked to stop loving them. On the contrary, precisely because you love them so much, you want the best for them. You want your counterpart to be happy, even if that means you can’t be in physical union with them in this beautiful world in this lifetime. True love means wanting the best for the other person. You are asked to let them go with love and keep loving them from afar.
You are on the path to Divine union
Know that you are still on the path to Divine union, just not with the person you expected. You are meant to anchor the energetic blueprint or template of Divine unions and conscious relationships on planet Earth. Both partners are energetic leaders and wayshowers destined to lead others into higher levels of consciousness and thus into the New Earth.
The bond with your twin flame can never be broken – you are always connected in the 5D and beyond – and yet it’s time to come into physical union with someone who is not only ready, but also willing to show up for you, protect you and this sacred union, and who doesn’t want to hide the connection.
You are being asked to transcend the twin flame journey because you have evolved beyond it and outgrown it. It’s time to begin your Divine Mission with a Divine Masculine – a high-level soulmate – as your kingdom spouse.
Only you know
Only you can know which of the three reasons applies to you. My words are simply a confirmation of what your intuition has already been telling you.
If you are unsure, place your hands on your heart and listen to this intuitive feeling you get. Your soul knows the answer. All it takes is the willingness to listen, to be honest with yourself and not to push the answer away out of fear, doubt, judgment, etc. And of course, listen to the guidance of your team in spirit. They have your best interest at heart. Ask your team in spirit about your next action steps or any blind spots – anything about yourself – that you do not see.
Transcending the label
Transcendence on the twin flame journey can also mean transcending the term “twin flame”. This is not a reason why we feel stuck, but it’s important to talk about it too.
The term twin flame has been misused. There are so many offers from so-called twin flame coaches or tarot readers who promise to find your twin flame or help you come into union with them. Many of them do not act with integrity. For them, it’s just a business model they use to take advantage of lonely souls who are either looking for a relationship and aren’t even a twin flame, or who are pining for a past lover who was actually a trauma bond and not a soul connection.
Twin flames & Divine counterparts
True twin flames are rare. And if you need someone to tell you whether you are a twin flame or not, then you aren’t one. True twin flames get activated to this path by Divine intervention. They weren’t actually looking for a partner until this soul recognition hit them like a lightning bolt. They felt this intense connection where there was a deep love from the very beginning, and they hadn’t even heard of the topic twin flame or didn’t even know the term. So I think part of this journey is that we shouldn’t let ourselves be defined by a label. We shouldn’t allow ourselves to be put in a tiny little box. All we need to know is that there’s another soul who has the exact same core soul frequency as us.
I personally prefer the term “Divine counterpart” because it beautifully emphasizes that the two complement each other wonderfully. They are two sides of the same coin, one holding more of the Divine Feminine essence and the other more of the Divine Masculine. A perfect energetic and spiritual match.
Why are Divine unions important and needed?
As Divine Feminines, we “need” a healthy masculine energy around us who not only wants to protect the sacred energy of the feminine, but is also ready to reveal his soul to the world. I put “need” in quotes because it’s not the kind of need that is needy and comes from scarcity. When the Divine Feminine has no masculine protector, she needs to be more in her own masculine energy in order to feel safe and stable in this world. With a Divine Masculine by her side as a safe container, she is able to fully honor her feminine essence, be in her softness, and flow freely in her femininity. She can completely surrender to and tap into her Divine gifts.
In the presence of the Divine Feminine, the Masculine is able to fully open his heart, completely step away from his ego and false identity, and honor his soul and Divine Mission. His Divine Feminine is the reflection and external embodiment of his inner feminine, his soul, his higher love, his highest purpose and destiny. She is his muse, bringing in Divine inspiration from the higher realms while he takes the lead in the physical. Both will activate their greatest power within each other. As both ascend, they are able to sink more into their corresponding polarities, which also means that they “need” each other more.
Demonstrating a higher love
We are not meant to do this alone. Divine unions are not only the future, but also necessary to create the New Earth. These unions are Divine. Both souls will thrive because pure Divine love is the foundation. They are powerful equals whose energies and gifts complement each other and create synergy. Both will experience greater freedom because they aren’t trying to control, fix or manipulate each other.
They exemplify the frequency of the New Earth, embody all those qualities we honor in the Age of Aquarius, and demonstrate this higher love by living in a state of unity and heart-centered consciousness in all areas of their lives. This sacred union is a coming together of two sovereign beings who have done the inner work, found self-love, and stepped into their most authentic version of themselves.
Experiencing freedom within the relationship
True love allows them to come into their full power and realize their full potential because both are able to freely channel their energy into their gifts and strengths. The feeling of giving up your freedom when you enter a committed relationship – the ball and chain phrase – is the old paradigm and a limiting belief. Both feel completely liberated in each other’s presence, without the need to wear a mask or avoid vulnerability. Their relationship is their sanctuary. Furthermore, both bring out the best in each other and are able to rise into their greatness through their spiritual yet grounded Divine union in the physical.
Every journey is unique
Not every twin flame journey is the same. My advice to you is to always listen to your intuition and your spiritual guidance. Be honest with yourself. Let go of the unhealthy part of your ego, your judgments, your expectations, your attachment to time and your thoughts about how your life should unfold. And always focus on yourself and your path to inner union, self-love, and authenticity.
When you are in a place of unconditional love, you are okay with the way your path unfolds. If it means being released from the soul contract, you do that with love. True love sets free, knowing that the soul bond will always be there, even if you are living separate lives in the 3D. If your feeling of stuckness means that you have been reminded that there’s more healing work to do, then you do that with loving devotion to yourself and God, determined to release anything that is not love within you. Or if the stuckness you are feeling is a sign to transcend time, you recommit to faith and to living your life in a state of surrender. You are being asked to bring your focus back to the present moment, enjoy being, and do things that bring you joy and fulfillment and are also in alignment with your Divine purpose.
The path to personal freedom
As you step into self-love and authenticity, you also strengthen your connection with your Divine self and the Divine. This path of inner transformation leads to personal freedom where you feel free and not stuck. Spiritual ascension is after all the path to personal freedom, authenticity and rising into your Divine self through transcending your old self. Transcendence is the key and the goal. It’s a liberation on all levels.
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Note: I use the pronouns she/he and her/his for simplicity reasons. The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine are energies and are not determined by gender. So your leading energy may be the feminine energy, yet you are incarnated in a male body, and vice versa.